The Path to Resilience

5 Lessons to Increase Fortitude and Freedom

It’s Monday morning, and you’re walking into the office. Your receptionist has a laundry list of messages for you. One is from Mrs. Jones stating that the tooth you did a crown on hurts. Mrs. Jones is adamant it didn’t hurt before you worked on it. You're told the implant supported crown case you were expecting didn't arrive last Friday. You're scheduled to seat the case this afternoon. You make it to your office and review the schedule. It doesn't end. You see three holes in the hygienist’s schedule. Two of these appointments cancelled this morning. You have been at the office for 15 minutes, and you're mentally exhausted. Time to put on your happy face and get to work.

For some of you, this example may seem foreign. For others, this will sound way too familiar. This was a prime example of my office just over one year ago. Dentistry was not fun. My office was a drag on my physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. But it was about this time that I really started diving into studying stoicism. I was first introduced to this school of philosophy by Ryan Holiday’s great book The Obstacle is the Way. In it, I learned of people with steely resolve in the face of conflict. This wasn’t some positive thinking self-help mind gymnastics. This was about building resolve. This was not about ignoring the problem or making it into something it’s not, but instead willfully turning and facing the challenge head-on. And building this resolve muscle is key to developing the practice, and life, that you want.

Here are five key lessons I have learned over this last year that have helped me make drastic changes in my office, lowered stress dramatically, and has led to a steady increase in income as well. Learning, reflecting, and practicing these lessons can help you take control of yourself so can steer your own ship.


The Good Things In Life Don’t Come Easy


Lead Without Needing Praise


Focus on Now - Don't Agonize Over The Future


Set Clear Standards Execute & Measure


Be Responsible For What You Control